“Quiet the mind, and the soul will speak.”
As you may recall from my blog about how I made a vision board work for me, you’ll know I’ve spent the last month working towards the “theme” I want to live by in 2018.
Today I’m sharing a bit of the process, but with the notion that this process is from my coach, Christina. I’ve benefitted greatly from working with her, and if you’re interested in learning more about what a career/life coach can do for you, I’d highly recommend it. Visit her site at www.boydsmithcoaching.com.
Let’s dive right in, shall we?
I began thinking about 2018 by reflecting on 2017. I started with 3 lists:
- Positive/Exciting things that happened in 2017
- Failures/not so great things that happened in 2017
- Things I learned about myself in 2017
From those lists, I generated 2-3 general themes out of each category. For list one, my themes were growth, created connections, took chances, and had more fun/joy. List two themes were physical health took a toll, lack of confidence, self-love and forgiveness of myself. Lastly, list 3 themes; I create the opportunities I seek, I am more action-oriented than I think, and good things happen when I keep an open mind.
2017 was an amazing year for me, but I knew there was one thing I needed to work on, and it fell within the category of failures/not so great things that happened in 2017. My lack of self-love and self-care. It is so critical for me to take ownership of this in order to accomplish the goals I have.
As I was explaining this to Christina, my mind went to a phrase I’ve heard so many other women who have a perfectionist mindset relate to. I said, “I want to be able to give myself the same grace and self-love that I would give to a friend, family member, or anyone else in a similar situation.” That was the “aha” that my theme was built off of.
The conversation continued, and I recall a moment where I became frustrated with myself for either making an excuse or having a moment of self-doubt. That’s when we landed on “Grace for ALL of me.”
This theme encompasses self-love and self-care, but it also is not judging or punishing myself for not doing things perfectly. Acknowledging my wins and successes. Instead of downplaying my strengths and attributing things I accomplish to others, it is time to take ownership and grant myself the same grace I grant others.
I still have plenty of work to do, but I’m excited to have this reminder with me at all times. On my phone, on my computer, in my planner…basically anywhere and everywhere my eyes wander. It might be the most difficult journey for me yet, but I know if I can overcome this, I truly will have made it to the side I’ve been searching for a long, long time.
Thanks for reading and for all of your love and support. Leave me a comment if you have a theme for 2018 you are living by, and what things work for you to keep it top of mind! 🙂